How To Say No

The Subtle Art.

So there’s this guy who’s in love with me but it’s not really mutual. He’s been after me for about a year and he doesn’t understand a no. Please help what can I say?

Sometimes ‘No’ is not always enough. When people are driven to go after something they want, they hardly back down except there is a good reason to. You’ve been responding with words. If you’re really sure you don’t want this guy, you’ll have to kick it up a notch. Trust me, it will benefit both you and him in the long run.

1. Say it with your chest: If you can, the next time he brings it up or hints at it, the best thing for you to do is be assertive. Your No shouldn’t sound like “Well, maybe but I’m not exactly sure about this…” because that won’t work. It should be “No. I’m sorry but this isn’t what I want right now.” Let him know all you want is to be friends and nothing more.
2. Limit communication: This is usually a deal-breaker for most guys because what keeps them interested and even gets them there in the first place is good communication like regular texts and calls. If that breaks or derails, interest can fade faster than you can say ‘enchilada’.
3. ‘You can’t reply to this conversation’: Yes, block him. Blocking usually should be used as a last resort because it can often come off as being rude and insensitive but it makes the message crystal clear.

If none of these work and prove to be futile, you might as well agree to a cup of coffee. Who knows where it may lead?